Dear Suze, I’ve dated a gal for 2 years and just realized I hate it. It’s no longer fun because my ideas and plans get over-ridden with what she wants. I do it her way or I do things on my own, which causes a big fight afterwards. Her way is fun, but usually expensive and she expects me to pay for it. I always feel blindsided and somehow the bad guy.
Dear Blindsided, Entitlement means one person believes their wants are more important than yours, and they “deserve” privileges without earning them. It’s an imbalance of power where they’re always right and you’re wrong; they get what they want and you’re expected to “get over” feeling mad/hurt -if you don’t, they’ll pay you back in spades with their anger. Eventually, all you feel is inferior and bad -about yourself, your relationship, your life. You’re the giver, they’re the taker. If you deserve better than this, walk away and never doubt yourself. -SQ
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