Dressing For Summer Dating

Dear Suze Q. This past weekend was perfect summer weather and I wore thigh-high shorts to a fabulous Gay Parade with a new date. Boy was he awed! I knew our cultural and religious differences were a problem but now I wonder how much. He said I looked nice but dressed a bit "skimpy" for my age (55!), and did "the gays" really have to be almost nude and kiss each other in public? Next week is a NO KINGS DAY rally. Should I go without him?

Dear Parade Lover, Discuss if he's ever been and what he expects from the rally? These events are good tests of compatibility and the parade was a near failure. He judged your choices of clothing and a fun outing as unacceptable, as well as PDA. Do you consider these two strikes, or three?  -SQ

Gay Pride

Suze Q and Californians celebrated Gay Pride 2026 weekend events from rainbow 🌈 drag shows, vendors, and street fairs.  Events began May 22, honoring Harvey Milk Day, the first openly gay politician elected to public office -a trailblazer for LGBTQ rights and the U.S.’s first gay rights ordinance. The city of West Hollywood (WeHo) always shows a flaming good time! -SQ

  

Scent

Dear Suze, My companion sniffs my hair and neck when he kisses me. Is it creepy? 

Dear Fragrant, Watch the movie, Scent of a Woman, and you’ll be entranced with what laser focus on one scent can do. Hair, lips, tits, Pacino says... Ecstasy for the mind, sexual arousal for the chemical connection. It’s only creepy if he’s a creep. Otherwise, breathing in your hair and skin is a gateway to nirvana. -SQ

Tesla

Tesla's hometown is Los Angeles, same as Suze Q's. And like Tesla's co-founder, Elon Musk, many Tesla owners think their shit doesn't stink. In Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q (available on Amazon) Chapter 38: Carter -is about one such narcissist-like man. Though he was an engineer and book-smart, he was a frog (more like a toad, really) -never to be a Prince Charming.  -SQ

Wind Phone

Suze Q was under mandatory evacuation during the devastating Altadena fire in California in January, 2025. Had the fierce Santa Ana winds turned west, instead of east that frightened night, I could have lost it all. This “wind phone” is a grieving spot with an unconnected rotary phone where anyone can have a one-way conversation with their deceased loved ones. There are about 400 across the United States, and we gratefully thank Seamus Bozeman who created this sacred place at the Healing Arts Center of Altadena. -SQ

Fetish for Seniors

Dear Readers -Let’s try this again. The blog powers to censor, AI bots is my bet, banned this post a few days ago so I’ve cloaked the questionable website address. We’ll see if it flies this time. -SQ

Dear Suze Q. I want to beef up my sex life and get a bit naughty. Don’t laugh, I’m in my 60s and rock ‘til I drop. The senior fetish dot com site talks about the “beauty of senior kink” for both beginners and experienced. Problems?

Dear 60, Truth in advertising is a forever problem. AI Overview says the website’s NOT reputable or secure re: real connections/profiles, and sales. Try FetLife (social networking). Iffy sites are: NaughtyCharm and kinky-seniors. General advice is that you’ll have luck and safety on mainstream hookup apps. -SQ

Sexual Incompatibility

Dear S. Q. I married a terrific kisser and have a good 10 year marriage except we’re sexually incompatible. She endures her “wifely duty” once a month. Our therapist asked us to create a wishlist, but I’m afraid to reveal the end point -if this doesn’t work, the divorce lawyer is next. 

Dear Kisser, Do the homework even if you wish for sex outside marriage, lap dances, and porn. Tell the therapist privately your thoughts about divorce so that topic can be worked into therapy when appropriate. -SQ