First Impressions: Eye Contact and a Smile

Dear Suze Q. I’m a healthy, social guy in my 60s living in a big city so you’d think my dating record would be better than it is. I sometimes see attractive women in public places but fearful to talk to them.

Dear City Guy, You’re on the right track. You like them, they live close. 3 steps: 1) You look at them, they look at you, and you both hold eye contact long enough to smile or say something; 2) say something; 3) if it feels right, keep saying something for 5 minutes. By then you’ll know if it’s ok to see them again (contact info exchange), maybe see them again (they frequent that public place often), or never see them again. Tip: Rehearse on strangers, store employees, in the mirror…SQ

The Rose

 

 My "What You Should Know About: Sex Toys" chapter mentions the Rose, a favorite as I grow my toy collection. I didn't grow up in an era where female masturbation was common, or at least not commonly spoken of. There was no need, especially in California where San Francisco's 1967 Summer of Love was followed by The Hippie Era and the Counterculture Movement were females burned their bras along side the guys burning their draft cards. Sex was free and easy, and taboos were shattered. Almost 50 years later, we hippie chicks number almost 300 M worldwide, and we're still unstoppable. 

 Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q

F. M. Shoes

An except from my "Chapter 5: From Virtual To Real, It Began With Adam." We planned to meet at the Hard Rock Cafe in Las Vegas. He'd bring only a toothbrush, and I'd bring my red "Fuck Me" shoes and a bikini. We had a safety word if sex got too much for me. We planned to tour Greece and eat baklava and stay for a week in a cliff-hanging hotel room in Peru.

He called me "My Sue" and he told card friends and strangers that he loved me. He bet me a blow job that I couldn't be quiet during sex and that he liked it slow. He was so sure of his bet that he doubled it because he'd win either way. It was unspoken that he would have to be there to verify if I was quiet or not...

Available from Amazon, on Kindle or covers that are soft or hard (_*_) 

Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q

-SQ

 

Cyber Frogs… Chapter 41: Woody

Dear Readers, Lots of you want to know the secret to successful on-line dating. What shortcuts can you take, how to weed out the cons and the liars? Honesty! many sages will tell you. Expand your limits, take risks! All good words, but the only real thing I learned during my five years swimming with the frogs looking for my prince was ... What the hell, I didn't learn anything. Well, maybe, some things about myself and a ton about elder sex. Here's an except from my book, now available on Amazon:

Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q 

Chapter 41: Woody

"I only know how to go too far. Advice from everyone was go slow, but that's not me. I don't go into a shoe store and not try on the merchandise." -Ed Sheeran

                                                                       WOODY D.

Spring, now. Mid 60s, status unknown.

Match Name:   Woody Long

Frog Type:        Sex Teaser

Woody:  Hello Susan; my name is Woody. Would you be interested in an intimate casual relationship meeting once a month?

Me:        Thx for being direct. I truly appreciate it. However, I'm in that kind of relationship now and want to move to a long-term partnership.

Woody:   Okay. I hope you find the lucky man you are looking for. U are very pretty and I bet a great kisser. ⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘

Had I accepted his offer, I am sure that his dick pics and videos would have followed and that we would have had some fun. Until Daddy took my T-Bird away.        -SQ

How To Judge Advice

Dear S.Q. The gal I love is of a different religion and culture and there are uphill struggles we think we can overcome. I’m confused by other’s opinions, but an unbiased professional won’t grasp the details. No insult intended.

Dearie, No insult taken. Others may give their blunt opinion, or give you valuable issues to consider. Here are a few thoughts: *directly poll several people whose opinions you value. *also listen to those who give you their opinions unsolicited. Then analyze your results: 1) are they projecting their values onto you or seeing it from your point of view? 2) does their advice ring true, both positive and negative? 3) do you value that they may have better insight than you about situations in general and this one in particular? 4) are they a squared-away person whose advice to themself bettered their own life? 🧐 -SQ

Date Your Age, Or Not?

Dear SQ, I followed a dating blog where a woman over 50 asked if men her same age were really interested in 50 y.o. women or 30 y.o? The answers were mixed. That didn’t help. 

Dear 50, Actually, the mixed answers reveal you can’t assume, you must ask, as impolite it may seem. Chronological age is an important as social-emotional age. While it won’t help to judge another’s choice in dating and mating, knowing another’s desired age range alerts you to an easy thumb’s up or down. -SQ

Time To Take Mom's Keys

Dear Suze Q. Mom insists on living on her own. She's 78 with no dementia or major physical problems, but her eyesight and hearing are going. When is it time to start restricting her freedoms?

Dear Adult Child, Think of it as the reverse of raising a child, -there you added freedoms as they demonstrated they could handle the responsibility. When your teen got their license and violated the law or were dangerous when driving, you restricted them temporarily. With the elderly, you resistrict their driving permanently and leave it to others: friends or transportation companies. If it hasn't happened yet, the next is restricting phone and money. Take this in stride as part of life. -SQ