Dear Readers, Lots of you want to know the secret to successful on-line dating. What shortcuts can you take, how to weed out the cons and the liars? Honesty! many sages will tell you. Expand your limits, take risks! All good words, but the only real thing I learned during my five years swimming with the frogs looking for my prince was ... What the hell, I didn't learn anything. Well, maybe, some things about myself and a ton about elder sex. Here's an except from my book, now available on Amazon:
Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q
Chapter 41: Woody
"I only know how to go too far. Advice from everyone was go slow, but that's not me. I don't go into a shoe store and not try on the merchandise." -Ed Sheeran
WOODY D.
Spring, now. Mid 60s, status unknown.
Match Name: Woody Long
Frog Type: Sex Teaser
Woody: Hello Susan; my name is Woody. Would you be interested in an intimate casual relationship meeting once a month?
Me: Thx for being direct. I truly appreciate it. However, I'm in that kind of relationship now and want to move to a long-term partnership.
Woody: Okay. I hope you find the lucky man you are looking for. U are very pretty and I bet a great kisser. ⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘
Had I accepted his offer, I am sure that his dick pics and videos would have followed and that we would have had some fun. Until Daddy took my T-Bird away.
Dear S.Q. The gal I love is of a different religion and culture and there are uphill struggles we think we can overcome. I’m confused by other’s opinions, but an unbiased professional won’t grasp the details. No insult intended.
Dearie, No insult taken. Others may give their blunt opinion, or give you valuable issues to consider. Here are a few thoughts: *directly poll several people whose opinions you value. *also listen to those who give you their opinions unsolicited. Then analyze your results: 1) are they projecting their values onto you or seeing it from your point of view? 2) does their advice ring true, both positive and negative? 3) do you value that they may have better insight than you about situations in general and this one in particular? 4) are they a squared-away person whose advice to themself bettered their own life? 🧐 -SQ
Dear SQ, I followed a dating blog where a woman over 50 asked if men her same age were really interested in 50 y.o. women or 30 y.o? The answers were mixed. That didn’t help.
Dear 50, Actually, the mixed answers reveal you can’t assume, you must ask, as impolite it may seem. Chronological age is an important as social-emotional age. While it won’t help to judge another’s choice in dating and mating, knowing another’s desired age range alerts you to an easy thumb’s up or down. -SQ
Dear Suze Q. Mom insists on living on her own. She's 78 with no dementia or major physical problems, but her eyesight and hearing are going. When is it time to start restricting her freedoms?
Dear Adult Child, Think of it as the reverse of raising a child, -there you added freedoms as they demonstrated they could handle the responsibility. When your teen got their license and violated the law or were dangerous when driving, you restricted them temporarily. With the elderly, you resistrict their driving permanently and leave it to others: friends or transportation companies. If it hasn't happened yet, the next is restricting phone and money. Take this in stride as part of life. -SQ
