Matrix Hand Shake = Misogyny - ☠️ Warning

Dear Suze, I loved Louis Theroux’s Netflix, “Inside the Manosphere” documentary beginning with a 20-nothing-year-old “influencer,” who got fame from his work-out programs, and private-view sex acts.  His shock-and-awe height of disgust was when he said his mom would be upset, BUT if he had a gay son, he’d disown him. Several other young, putrid, rich male assholes hyped the “manosphere” (ultra-masculine world dominance) surrounded by worshipping, less-intelligent-than-them, beautiful-yet-childlike, submissive women selling-their-soul for the limelight. I love men, but not this breed.

Dear Disguested. I urge others to watch this well-balanced, honest documentary and hope society self-corrects. All the men interviewed had a massively unstable childhood that shapes one’s personality. As men, they have an amazing lack of humanity and superficial bond to return to caveman thinking of old. Beware of poisonous ☠️ men displaying the triangle hand signal, called the “matrix.” -SQ

My Gay Friend Hit On My Husband

Dear Suze Q. My gay friend recently met my husband and asked him, behind my back, if he’d be interested in getting together without me. When my husband turned him down flat, my “friend” suggested they keep the conversation from me.

Dear Excluded,  The issue isn’t gay or straight but that your “friend” isn’t one. A friend would have asked if YOU were interested in loaning him your husband, or a 3-way, rather than come-on to your husband secretly.  You've been betrayed so swipe left, no explanation needed. Don’t bother to let them apologize; their actions said it all. -SQ

Earlybirds Club

Dear S.Q.  A shout out to this cool club in Dallas. The queue was around the corner with mostly women and we had a blast bar-hopping like in our youth with music of the 60s, 70s, 80s.

Dear Earlybird. The 2024 founders of the Earlybirds Club were two high school buddies who sparked this concept to a roaring success as “a dance party for ladies who have sh*t to do in the morning… inspired by the bygone nights spent clubbing with your girlfriends.” 6-10 p.m. with a D.J., for “especially women, trans, and binary folks… without the late-night drama, judgment, or creeps.” Dozens of cities, 3 continents! -SQ

Are You Complete Or Looking For Someone To Complete You?

Dear Suze, I date a variety of women, but none make me want to keep them.

Dear Dater, Is it them that aren’t keepers, or is it you? Are you looking for conquests, or compliments, or a trophy on your mantle? If you’re not comfortable being alone, no one can fill you up. Love yourself, then see the world through the eyes of a happy person, and date as a giver not a taker. -SQ

Is My GF Jealous Of My Teen Daughter?

Dear S.Q. I've lived with a zaney, vivacious woman for 5 years, since my daughter was 9. I only have my kid every other weekend and we take summer trips together, when my gf visits her relatives alone. It's gotten harder since my daughter has activities on weekends that I love to do, but my gf refuses. We argue about it. I want to act like a family but my gf wants no part of "childcare." 

Dear Dad, Does it feel like an ultimatum by your partner to choose between her or your daughter? If you've got your head on straight that you can't have both, then there's only one that deserves your love. You'll never have another daughter like this one, but jealous, self-centered, controlling women are everywhere. Did you waste 5 years of your life and your daughter's unnecessarily? Make better choices in the future. -SQ

AITA on Reddit

Dear Suze Q.  I keep getting pop-up ads that start with AITA, then continue with some inane, sometimes funny, always odd, usually not worth a serious person’s time story. I hit delete but they keep coming back. What’s the deal?

Dear Serious, If you’re a soap-opera fan, this minutia is for you. Created in 2013, potential assholes post a supposed real life dilemma and ask the forum to judge if “Am I The Asshole?” Since hundreds of scenarios a day are posted by different people, when you block one, you’ve not blocking all. Though many posts are fake, the others show real morality daily struggles of complex interpersonal dynamics. And, naturally, it’s a fun place to kill time. -SQ

Dating And "Deal Breakers"

Dear Suze Q. I'm 70 and dating after 26 years of celibacy. I have a list of deal-breakers about religion, politics, and personal habits. I list them on the dating site and one man replied that he wants to know me but thinks that deal-breakers shouldn't be discussed until after a date or two. I think he's nuts. 

Dear Dater, The point of deal-breakers is to immediately rule out those whose behaviors/traits are unacceptable, and pursue those whose positive values/ideals align with yours. It's a time- and heart-break saver. Deal breakers are red flags so you don't waste time on useless dates. Refusing to talk about deal-breakers is the biggest red flag of all. Maybe he's nuts, but definitely he's incompatible. -SQ