Fetish for Seniors

Dear Readers -Let’s try this again. The blog powers to censor, AI bots is my bet, banned this post a few days ago so I’ve cloaked the questionable website address. We’ll see if it flies this time. -SQ

Dear Suze Q. I want to beef up my sex life and get a bit naughty. Don’t laugh, I’m in my 60s and rock ‘til I drop. The senior fetish dot com site talks about the “beauty of senior kink” for both beginners and experienced. Problems?

Dear 60, Truth in advertising has been a problem since forever. AI Overview considers this website NOT reputable or secure re: real connections/profiles, and sales. Try FetLife (social networking). Iffy sites are: NaughtyCharm and kinky-seniors. General advice is that you’ll have better luck and greater safety on mainstream hookup apps. -SQ

Sexual Incompatibility

Dear S. Q. I married a terrific kisser and have a good 10 year marriage except we’re sexually incompatible. She endures her “wifely duty” once a month. Our therapist asked us to create a wishlist, but I’m afraid to reveal the end point -if this doesn’t work, the divorce lawyer is next. 

Dear Kisser, Do the homework even if you wish for sex outside marriage, lap dances, and porn. Tell the therapist privately your thoughts about divorce so that topic can be worked into therapy when appropriate. -SQ

Happy Birthday, Ms. Monroe

Happy Birthday to Marilyn, we wish you were still with us. You were well loved by Hollywood and the world. Sexy lady in Some Like It Hot, The Seven Year Itch, and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, she was an inspiration to all us hot women, (inside and out), that love life and men that love women! 

🥂Cheers, Marilyn. -SQ

Aren't Men Curious About Women?

Dear Suze Q. I'm tired of hearing the same old broken record when meeting new men. They talk about themselves, exaggerating their finances, and minimizing their age and faults.  And they ask fuckall about me. What gives?

Dear Tired, Like women, many men are nervous on the first face-to-face. The phone conversations and texts were easier. With anxiety, many men start babbling like a sales pitch, and what easier topic than themselves. Women are usually good listeners, so we fall into listening and the whole balance of shared 2-way conversation, give and take of information, is off to a rocky start. Men are curious about women, but also intimidated, and often clueless how to have a genuine conversation rather than soppy pick-up lines and monologues. Insert yourself where you can, see how a second date goes. If the same self-centered presentation reoccurs, walk away -it probably won’t improve. -SQ  

Bad Girls Bible

 

 

In my newly released, Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q available on Amazon is a chapter about Oakley who went by the name of Pocket Aces when I met him on a Texas Hold 'Em game site. We had a fantasy long-distance tete-a-tete for a few months. Here's a glimpse - 

     My BFF, Dee, asked for my latest update. She laughingly chastised me as a "black widow," believing that I would suck the life out of Oakley and leave him for dead after having my way with him. Life's little comedies and tragedies. I thought that she was a bit dramatic, but not entirely wrong.

     Oakley and my role-playing continued for a few more weeks centered around stolen imaginary quick trips to Las Vegas where we hung a "Do Not Disturb" sign outside our poolside cabana and created a safety word for fear that our creative juices would become too edgy, and Study Nights when we discussed what we had learned from the Bad Girls Bible and our latest reference book, "Kama Sutra Workout" published by Penguin Random House...

“The Sex Teaser,” an Excerpt

Cyber Frogs And Princes: A Sex Manual Of On-Line Dating After 50 by Suze Q is available on Amazon. The Glossary of Frogs chapter warns of those guys who want you to kiss them, all over their bodies, but they’ll never turn into your Prince. Here’s a sample email one stud sent to get my “juices going” because he missed me. (We’d never met except in his mind).

Chapter: Glossary of Frogs:  “SEX TEASER - This guy will send you dick pics whether you ask for them or not. Videos too. He will slyly let you know that he loves older women because they know what they want. Meaning sex with a younger man. Him. If you play his game, you may get the pleasure of his sexual pleasure, once or twice or maybe more. He loves sex with unbound women and he’s good in bed. He’s the 1700s Casanova, revived and horny. A modern womanizer. A real or enduring relationship with this guy is as elusive and ethereal as stardust, but he’s fun.” -SQ

 

80/20 Listening Rule

Dear Readers. Well, really, this is for the men, so hand it to someone who could benefit. Many women complain about dating men who don't seem curious about them. That's a polite summary; they feel unappreciated, placated, and pissed off.

Dating, life, most everything that's important is better if equal and balanced with the one you love. The 80/20 rule asks men to listen (not pretending to listen while you’re figuring out what to say next) 80% of the time, initially, until you both get a rhythm, before the conversation naturally glides to 50/50. Like a tennis match -your turn, her turn, your turn to speak. Ask follow-up questions, how and why, share your vulnerabilities, your passions, your story, thoughts and dreams. Check yourself after each date -do you know as much new info about her as she learned about you? -SQ