As soon as you wade into the dating pond, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the frogs that want you to kiss them.
- Without a second thought, the first to be tossed out are the toads, horny and otherwise, that can't even get it right to pretend to be frogs.
- After you eliminate those might-be-your-princes that live too far away, have the wrong physical characteristics (height, weight, hair, hippiness), or wrong obvious something else, here's my little cheat sheet that I've found helpful.
Level One Elimination include those men to which you have an automatic, autonomic, visceral negative reaction. Go with your ultra-sensitive Spiderman senses and swipe left.
Level Two Elimination encompasses those men who probably are exactly as they appear, -not quite compatible. They love 24/7 sports; believe that anything outside is preferable to indoor quiet; or restore, parade in or drool over, classic cars; -or some other interest that you don't share, but you tell yourself that you'd like to. Maybe it's men that live and breathe culture, -your mundane interests would bore them to death, and their overly engorged lifestyle isn't for you. You can try to change these men or yourself, but at this initial level, why bother? Swipe left.
Level Three Elimination contains the subtle frogs that take time and emotional energy to weed through. Follow your gut when it's a tie-breaker between your head and your heart. Look for the mixed signals early on that something is not right and do not take your third eye off this ball. These are the emotionally unavailable guys, the too-good-to-be-true ones, the chameleons, the con-men, the sophisticated-but-hollow fellows. They'll bling you with lies and misdirection, focusing you on a façade that they want you to see. Get too close, ask too many questions, and poof! they're gone. Emotional commitment is a scary concept to them. Take heart, it's not you, it's them.
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