Bothered When He Looks at Other Women

Dear Suze Q. I'm intimate with a man and we've discussed becoming a couple, yet he looks at other women in front of me and introduces me simply as his date. I've told him that admiring women hurts my feelings. He says he doesn't mean anything because all women are beautiful creatures, but if we become exclusive, he'll definitely try to stop.

Dear Hurt Feelings. Looking at other women is not an automatic and involuntary reflex like breathing. It's a habit. He gets pleasure from it. Try to break it is the best he can do? The second you told him it bothered you, he should have stopped looking at other woman when with you. PERIOD. It's a bummer you even had to speak twice about this subject. If you're not the light of his life, the apple of his eye, what's the point of exclusivity? Dig deep when defining what fidelity really means to him.- SQ