Dear Suze Q. Dating apps ask for specifics about myself and my dreams. I can answer facts, -religion, deal breakers, hobbies. When they want a summary of what I want, I’m overwhelmed. I don’t trust other’s bios or pictures. Somedays, I just give up looking for a companion.
Dear Frustrated, Take a step back and breathe. You’ve nailed the specifics of what you want (and don’t want, I assume), now let’s find your person whose core values align. Some call it the 5 Cs. 1) Communication-critical to respecting each other, and endurance of the relationship. Follow “fair fighting” rules, see issues from the other’s POV, and resolve disputes; 2) Compassion-truly has the ability to feel and share feelings; 3) Character-the grit, the soul, summed up as all that makes a person their best; 4) Chemistry or magnetism-attraction beginning with the brain, includes all 5 senses, and even though it’s hard to define, you know if it’s there or not; 5) Compatible companionship-a comfortable fit, things are in-synch, it feels right. -SQ
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