80/20 Listening Rule

Dear Readers. Well, really, this is for the men, so hand it to someone who could benefit. Many women complain about dating men who don't seem curious about them. That's a polite summary; they feel unappreciated, placated, and pissed off.

Dating, life, most everything that's important is better if equal and balanced with the one you love. The 80/20 rule asks men to listen (not pretending to listen while you’re figuring out what to say next) 80% of the time, initially, until you both get a rhythm, before the conversation naturally glides to 50/50. Like a tennis match -your turn, her turn, your turn to speak. Ask follow-up questions, how and why, share your vulnerabilities, your passions, your story, thoughts and dreams. Check yourself after each date -do you know as much new info about her as she learned about you? -SQ