Dear Suze, I’m very happy and ready to love since my divorce and the kids have left. I’m smitten by a guy who is sooo easy and down-to-Earth, most of the time. He says he’s coming out of his shell and loves my company. He was married briefly 30 years ago, in his 20s, has no kids, no pets, and no really close friends. He loves mine and they adore him. Problem is, he disappears for days, especially after we’ve had fabulous sex or extensive time together. He says he gets overwhelmed and just needs time alone. Am I wasting my time?
Dear Happy, A 50+ year-old man who’s been single most all his life and still needs time alone when things get intimate, tells you everything -if you’re willing to be honest with yourself. He’s emotionally unavailable; toxic waste to your desire for intimacy and affection; has a life-long pattern of failed intimate relationships. Hard to believe he’s not a keeper because everything is great when it’s good, but crazy-making and dog-shit bad when he withdraws. Set a timeline if you want to test if he will change, but be prepared to move on to happiness elsewhere. -SQ
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