Dear Suze, I’ve met a great gal in a grief support group that I’m falling hard for. Everyone warns me to step back and go slow for a year or two, but we’re so compatible, I'm sure it can work.
Dear Griever, Anything CAN work for awhile, but your goal is to heal yourself. Is she your co-dependent other-half who understands your pain so completely that you finish each other’s sentences and will drown in the quicksand of misery with you, so neither of you ever returns to your previous state of happiness? As she evolves to her previous mental wellness, will your journey hinder or help her growth? Research has shown that it takes time to get your head straight after tragedy, so focus. Don’t allow your dopamine lovebombs to sidetrack YOUR learning to love and forgive yourself. Love and comfort cannot replace healing, but it can aid or impede it. -SQ
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