Dear Suze Q. I've had the same group of tight four friends since college. We get together at least every two months, but lately they've been pairing off and doing things without me. When I ask, they just dismiss it.
Dear Ignored, In your 30s, you usually have lived enough to know who you are and how to handle the world. Alexander the Great was king at age 20; Marie Curie was 33 when she won her first of 2 Nobel Prizes. Most people don’t have a carved path in life, but both of these visionaries knew the power of spending time with yourself. Fitting in is a hardwired need to belong and loved. Being excluded is a death blow to the ego. What to do when excluded: 1) Name your emotion -pissed, sad/devastated, amused, revengeful. 2) Determine what happened from the other’s POV before you take ANY action; 3) Is this a pattern ➡️ find a new tribe. Not a pattern ➡️ tell your friends your feelings then hang-in until a pattern emerges to see if these pps love you 💕 enough. If you can’t be happy alone, no one else can ever satisfy you either. -SQ
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