Dear Suze, I’ve dated a gentleman for about 3 years and I can’t get a grip. We’re in our 60s and have no obligations tugging at us like family, finances, health problems. We’re happy living apart and sharing everything together. But - when we stay at each other’s home for more than 2 nights, he’s irritable and clams up. Days later it blows over and he says it was nothing. My confidence is eroding. I keep waiting for the silent treatment to start.
Dear Waiting, You’re supposed to be reaping the rewards of your golden years, not anxious if your partner is pulling you into quicksand. If he’s been this moody for three years and withholds meaningful communication, you should have left long ago.Whatever he’s dealing with, he’s not effective and it’s affecting the relationship. If this behavior is new, and you can’t get him to honestly tell you everything you want to know, insist on short-term couples counseling or terminate the relationship. Time’s too precious to dick around with a partner who isn’t really a partner. -SQ
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