Dear Suze, My 6-year-old is needier since I started dating after my divorce. He wakes during the night and I’ve let him sleep with me except when my new partner stays over. Conflicted Mom.
Dear Conflicted, Your son’s experienced a lot of changes in a short time. A family of 3, then Mom’s house where he has you all to himself, (and Dad’s house with the same), to Mom’s house where a stranger sometimes sleeps with Mom. Instability and jealousy can make anyone needy. Spend quality time to assure him he’ll never be replaced, and explain you also need adult time. A critical skill is to sooth yourself back to sleep after waking during the night (without another’s help) that you need to teach your son. The faster he’s happy sleeping alone again, the quicker other insecurities will clear up. -SQ
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