Ready to Move On, Physically and Mentally

Dear Suze Q., My adult kids got me a subscription to a dating site. They think 3 years is enough grieving for my wife's death from cancer. I'm physically ready, excited really, but she was a saint and I doubt anyone can be as wonderful. 

Dear Doubter, One step at a time. (1) Date while staying in the moment, like dancing, sex, hiking, sex, day-adventures. (2) When you find someone you enjoy spending lots of time with, then crack open the door to imagine a life together, BUT, (3) A committed partnership requires a mental shift -you must let go of the safety of living life as if your wife were still alive, and so impossibly perfect that no one will ever compare. Counseling may be needed at this stage. When you find that person who makes you happy, you must let her in, in order for you to thrive. Otherwise, you're wasting your time on earth until you join your wife. -SQ