Dear S.Q. Last night was Girls' Night Out (GNO) and the man I've been dating for months was at the same restaurant with another woman. My girlfriends egged me to say hello and he introduced me to his date as his "friend." We never discussed exclusivity but I assumed we were a couple. I'm hurt and embarrassed. Am I stupid?
Dear Not Stupid. This is one of those thorny communication problems where you assumed you were only seeing each other, and he had no such belief. Obviously, now is the time to have that belated talk and set guidelines for your relationship. Be sure of what YOU want so you don't throw a childish tantrum or pout like a victim. It's a misunderstanding, nothing more. Don't let this conversation become an argument. In serious intimate relationships, there's plenty of important stuff to be negotiated calmly. Treat this as a learning opportunity for you both. (Have this conversation in a public place in case you need to bolt). -SQ
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