Monday, September 2, 2024

Controlling Child of Alcoholics

Dear Suz, My wife gave me the ultimatum of therapy or she’d leave me. The counselor’s making me swallow some hard truths that’s killing me. I know I’m controlling but it’s made me a success in business. My childhood was chaotic with both parents angry alcoholics. 

Dear Child of Alcoholics. Admitting you’re controlling is a major first step, but it’s not enough. Forced counseling doesn’t usually work. Many children of alcoholics have adult relationship problems: need for control, fear of intimacy and trust, jealousy, substance abuse. Own your issues if you want to really change. Do your wife a favor and divorce her now if you can’t (or won’t) do the hard work to be a better husband and partner. -SQ

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