Dear Readers, One thing that makes us human is empathy -the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes and feel as they do. Robots can't do this, nor can monsters, or sociopaths. People without empathy are a waste of humanity. Soooo, when is it okay to ghost someone? Most experts agree that ghosting is a No-No and doing so makes you the slimeball of all time, because this final f--- off ceases all contact and leaves the other person feeling like crap. However, here are 5 reasons why it's fine and dandy to ghost someone without a twang of guilt:
(1) They are dangerous. (Keep a copy of all correspondence between the two of you, then delete ALL your information that you've sent to them. The police may need a paper trail).
(2) They creep you out (for real or just a feeling). If you aren't scared yet, don't wait until you are.
(3) You've told them twice, clearly, without a smidgen of misunderstanding, that it's all over now, Baby Blue, and yet they keep coming at you. (They are violating your boundaries and you need to protect yourself).
(4) You've told them nicely to give you space, slow it down, or you'll call them, but instead, they rush you or step-up their game with increasing calls/messages/pictures.
(5) The fifth reason to ghost someone is to do them a favor, if you're the shithead who takes shortcuts in life and routinely slaughters other's souls along the way. Many people have horrible social communication skills, and avoid confrontation because they can't tolerate emotional conversations. Learning to trust and be intimate with another is the ultimate human reward, but it is difficult. To get the best out of a relationship, you've got to put your everything into it. Happy, fulfilled people aren't born that way, they work at it. Don't be #5, learn to be socially competent, otherwise others will be ghosting you. -SQ
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