I Can’t Live with a Slob

Dear Suze, My guy and I want to live together rather than continue to alternate houses. We live close and can run home when we need our own space. He’s a slob, lives like a bachelor and never seems to think about my needs. I find my makeup buried under his stuff, his clothes wherever they land, haphazard piles in every room. Ugh. 

Dear Ugh, If you run away now when his slobiness overwhelms you, where will you go when you live together? A housekeeper will help, but it’s a temporary fix and won’t cure the underlying problem. What else are you running from? Make a pros/cons list. Talk out the nitty-gritty details, brutally honestly, of what bugs you. Try a trial run of living together for a month. If that feels great, finalize the move. If not, DON’T move now, maybe in the future. Don't lie/pretend/exaggerate about whether it works, and NEVER settle for less. -SQ