Dear Readers, From a young age, females learn the secrets of The Girls’ Code. In my debut book, Cyber Frogs and Princes: A Sex Manual of On-Line Dating After 50, by Suze Q (available on Amazon, Google Books, Walmart), I share my first memory on pages 105-106: "The Code begins as early as your preteens when you're giggling with your girlfriends that some boy is 'cute.' She passes the info to him... Best case scenario is that you go 'steady' with him for a day or two, but you've gained a sister-in-arms forever; a solidarity that no male could ever break, or truly understand." Since then, I’ve violated the code accidentally and intentionally and been rewarded and punished accordingly, -much like a Momma lion raises her young. Dating in later life leaves little room for knowingly fucking up. Even though the amount of rules decreases, the weight and sacredness of each increases.
Dear Suze, I’m conflicted, hurt, and sad by the behavior of a close friend. She started dating again after a nasty divorce with a controlling ex. She sleeps with anyone and seems hell-bent on proving something. At nearly 60, she’s trying to be a Lolita without the looks or the body. None of her dates are keepers or presentable in our social circles. She’s asked me why our girlfriends are shunning her.
Dear GF, Honesty is part of the Girl Code, and as mature women, brutal honesty is a duty. More than ever, elevate and support one another in understanding her quest and dating journey. Do not abandon a sister in need. She’s asked for your help. You and other gfs need to cocoon her with love and support, and get her on a safe and sane path. -SQ
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