No Sex In A While?

 

Dear Suze Q, After 30 years of marriage, my wife and I have sex less than once a month. She says it sometimes hurts even with a lot of lube. We're only in our 60s and I'm sick of the excuses. I reminded her that before our grown kids, we had sex often and everywhere. She smiled. I'm going to insist on more sex, have an affair, or get a divorce.  How to tell her?

Dear Sexy, Before you make an ultimatum you can't take back, decide if you want to stay married or is this just an excuse to divorce. If you want to stay together but the "rustimess factor" has slowed down the lovemaking (thin, dry vaginal walls that hurt when rubbed, sex positions that give you aches not ecstasy, and fatigue instead of  climax), get some help. A few quick therapy sessions will loosen you right up on tips and touches. -SQ