Dear SQ, My partner and I are busy but look forward to date nights without the kids, like when we courted. We’re both touchy-feely and love sex. How can we prolong the pleasure?
Dear Sexual. Let’s think deep! Instead of jumping into another new sex position to get fired up, start with the brain to slowly get the juices flowing.
1) Mind-meld. No touching each other for 15 minutes, but lay face-to-face, and talk/giggle/play: truth or (no) dare/tell me a secret/tell me a fantasy/tell a story together alternating chapters/ask “would you rather” dirty questions/ask or show what would you like me to do to you & you to do for me/tell me one thing you like about the other. Use all your senses, except touch.
2) Touch. Layer up and play strip poker, but the winner strips the loser. Blindfold both of you and slowly, simultaneously undress the other (wear lots of buttons, catches, zippers). Give your blindfolded partner a small food bit on a spoon to feed to you while lying nude in bed; when the spoon falls, they have to find the food somewhere on your body with their mouth as you verbally hint where to feel.
3) Out of bed (or house). Role play -at a crowded bar/restaurant/park, hook-up with your partner play-acting as a stranger. In public, but somewhat sheltered, touch underneath clothing/talk about clothes you’re not wearing/rub the other’s bulges (careful of the legalities). The tried-and true: doctor/patient, teacher/student, Tarzan/Jane (bondage), Batman/Poison Ivy (superpowers), naughty neighbors, repairman/homeowner… Love to play and play to love. -SQ
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