Performance Anxiety

Dear Suze Q, I’ve dated on-line with no winners. As a 60 y.o. male, my sexual parts work unpredictably and sometimes not at all. I worry every second I’m on a date -before and after. My deceased wife understood me, so we improvised. I’m a mess.

Dear Worried, Before your wife understood your sexual and emotional anxieties, she understood you as a partner and companion. You are more than your unpredictable sexual parts. Many possible mates are also scared of their sexuality, so focus on other topics of mutual interest. Try relaxation techniques and consult with your MD for treatment for performance anxiety (in your head and in bed). -SQ