Self-Limiting Behavior

Dear Suze, I was raised that children were seen and not heard, then I married an older man who was very controlling. I’m mid-40s, widowed, and not too old to learn how to think for myself. I’ve always judged myself by other’s standards and fallen short. I have no clue how to be assertive because I usually don’t even have my own opinion. 

Dear 40, It’s not too late to blossom into yourself, but you have a lot of self-work. The easy way out is to continue to be brain-dead and someone’s Stepford wife. Since you know who brain-washed you (parents, husband), then you know the script they indoctrinated you with. Now, you are free to change your responses; your jailors are gone and you hold the keys. Read everything, seek help, become an expert in reprogramming yourself to stop self-limiting behavior and soar like an eagle. -SQ