Dear S. Q. I’m dated a man 20 years my senior, which is actually great, since I’m in my 30s, and he’s established in his career and rich. He treats me like his queen in public and sweetly calls me his (arm) candy-girl. Oddly, he includes me in some social events, but not others. He says I’d be bored with “shop talk” with his colleagues, but their female partners are invited, and I have a college degree in business. I’m confused.
Dear Candy, A gentleman at times and a chauvinist at others is confusing. The core problem is: he doesn’t treat or accept you as his equal. Can you live with this? Gentleman: polite, supportive, democratic; respectful towards others, especially women; values their opinions and independence. Chauvinist: asserts male dominance and believe themselves superior; displays dismissal, condescending, patronizing behavior to females because they are inferior. “Male chauvinists” appear polished, cultured, and articulate, but their worldview is that men are inherently superior to women who they must control. -SQ
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