Dear S. Q. I’m 30, dating a man 20 years older who is established in his career and rich. He treats me like his queen in public and sweetly calls me his (arm) candy-girl, but sometimes belittles me privately. He excludes me in some social events because I’d be bored with “shop talk.” But his colleagues' female wives are invited, and I have a college degree in business. I’m confused.
Dear Candy, A gentleman at times and a chauvinist at others is confusing. The core problem is he doesn’t treat or accept you as his equal. Can you live with this? Gentleman: polite/supportive/democratic; respectful, especially towards females; values their opinions and independence. Chauvinist: asserts male dominance and believe themselves superior; oozes dismissive/condescending/patronizing behavior to women, who are inferior. “Male chauvinists” appear polished, articulate, and cultured, but their worldview is that men are inherently superior to women who they must control. -SQ
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