Wrong Therapist, Wrong Results

Dear S.Q. I don’t trust much, but here goes. I’ve been in therapy with different therapist for years. The only thing consistent, other than dissecting my childhood, is that I apparently don’t try hard enough. I have to change my attitude in order to improve. 

Dear Frustrated, All therapies and therapists are not the same. There are bad therapists, and mismatches between therapists and clients. Then there’s the wrong therapy for a client. Imagine if weight loss or stop smoking philosophy was: you’ll make your goal when you want it badly enough. Hell no! They believe change your behavior and you’ll meet your goals. If you want change, find a counselor that specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy, which is short-term, structured and collaborative. But if you like scraping your soul raw and using up that Kleenex box, stick with the myriad of therapeutic disciplines that offer never-ending “process.”