Dear Suze Q. It’s gotten so my dad can’t live by himself or with me or my sisters anymore. He broke his hip and requires a wheelchair, maybe forever. He’s incontinent, can’t grip or feed himself, has trouble swallowing. We cried when we moved him from acute-care to a group home. He’s begged us to not leave him and wants to know what he has to do to come home.
Dear Good Son, The reality is that Dad may never return home. Giving him some sliver of hope is better than bluntly killing his dreams. Ex: tell him when he can walk independently, or feed himself a full meal, the doctors (not the family) can send him home. Stick to the truth -kids can’t lift him without hurting themselves; needs 24° supervision… -SQ
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