Dear Suze, I'm a widower and after 5 years I’ve decided to date again, even rusty and terrified. My husband was dominant and I quit arguing in the final years out of exhaustion. I'm grateful for a second chance to be happy. I'm dating a man whose fallback is that I can’t understand because I’m not a man. True, but that shouldn't be the argument stopper.
Dear Rusty, Don't allow this total bullshit argument to silence you. If it was valid, he shouldn't be able to understand you because he's not a woman. Humans have the unique ability of empathy, the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes and see and feel things from their point of view. You don’t need to be suicidal to understand it, or to be a parent to understand children. He communicates by demeaning you and you’re repeating a pattern of choosing bad partners. Move on. -SQ
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