Dear S.Q., I recently married. Both sides of my bi-cultural family are supportive except my Asian mother who calls being gay, "unnatural." She thinks it's a phase I refuse to outgrow, and throws tantrums or shuts down if anyone challenges her views. The family is furious with her, which she blames on me. My therapist recommends to endure my depression or cuts off ties with my mother.
Dear Mrs. Asia, There are more options, think deeper. How unfortunate for all of you. You have lost your mother because she self-righteously chose to not have you as her daughter. Will she ever accept you and your partner, when, and at what cost? This will be a long and emotionally wrenching experience no matter what. Unfortunately, only you can chose your path. It might help to set goals and timelines -If Mom doesn't meet your partner by X, then cut ties for Y amount of time. My heart breaks for you. SQ
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